This is not my typical book review. Rather, this is a preface to a review I will be writing in several months.
Many of you know I have three small children, Luke, age 6; Aubrey, almost 4; and Ellie, 6 months. I knew before the importance of consistency and structure required for successful parenting; I considered myself fairly consistent and structured…until child number three came along. While adjusting to three children went much smoother for me than adjusting to two, there is one area where I am still extremely weak: my memory. Yikes! I swear I lost more and more of my short-term memory with the birth of each child. And it’s not just with my children where my memory is bad; it’s in everything, and it’s frustrating. It is my inconsistency, in conjunction with my lack of memory, lately that has gotten me disgruntled.
In the past, I have used Behavior Boosters to encourage appropriate behavior in my children. I LOVE Behavior Boosters! One of my main goals in parenting is to back up all of my consequences and rewards with scripture. The Bible gives parents everything they need to know about parenting. For me though, it is knowing how to apply those guidelines properly that is tricky. That is where Behavior Boosters came in. I still plan on using Behavior Boosters to encourage positive behavior in creative, scripture-based ways, but lately, I have been needing something more.
It was at Bible study last Monday night where I learned about Doorposts! Eureka! I
think am hoping my consistency in parenting
has met the means for change!
I am always giving my children “if-then” statements: “If you continue to talk back, then you will loose the privilege of playing the Wii today.” I also LOVE charts! Doorposts combines both of these and provides an excellent “if-then” chart as well as “The Blessing Chart” for rewards. These just came in the mail today, and I am beyond eager to begin using them!
In addition to these wonderful charts, Doorposts also makes a “Brother-Offended” checklist. This is the parenting manipulative I am most excited about! My six-year-old is becoming the most diligent tattletale. This is one area where I am at a loss. I want him to tell me if his sister is doing something that could hurt herself like running into the road, or if she intentionally hurt another, but I do not want to know every time she throws rocks in the driveway, goes up the stairs with her shoes on, or rolls her baby sister over. So, beginning today, we are going to go over the Brother-Offended checklist and booklet as a family and start implementing this strategy for tattling.
I am super excited about this new regimen we will be implementing! I will keep you posted as to my progress and if these manipulatives are going to be better for my memory and, subsequently, my consistency than any amount of gingko biloba.
I'm always looking for ways to improve my parenting. What have you found to be successful ways to discipline and reward your children? Have you done anything creative? Do you have any suggestions to offer?